SCHEDULING FOR MORE

Meetings,

appointments,

and

errands

seem to be how we measure our days.

So everyone has a

busy schedule,

running to and fro.

“Busy” is the mantra

and

busy we stay.

However,

empathy,

care,

and

compassion

are easily overwhelmed

by the things

you try to

compress

into the day.

You made get a lot

done,

but you also feel a bit

undone

at the end of the day.

What would change if

instead of scheduling

to get more in,

you scheduled

to give more out?

To do this,

you’ll have to measure your days

differently,

and it will make

life, work, relationships

deeper, better,

not just

busy.


ALL AT ONCE

All at once,

it all comes.

All of it comes

all at once.

The good stuff --

extra opportunities,

new clients,

social invitations.

The not-so-good stuff --

rejections,

cancellations,

supposed failures.

Or so it seems.

Whenever

and

however

it comes,

drip by drip

or

firehose,

you must know

who you are

and

how to

stay focused

on who you are

and

where you are going.


Otherwise,

you’re just

overwhelmed

all at once

and

all the time.


WILL YOU HELP ME WITH THIS?

When was the last time you asked,

“Will you help me with this?”


Asking for help

is not something

we do

well

or

often.


When we ask,

we make ourselves

vulnerable

and

open.


Not a place we usually

like to find ourselves.


Not a place our

lizard brain

wants us to be.


But,

if we’re going to continue

getting better,

we’re going to have to

get better at

asking for help.


THE PRICE OF STOPPING

In the dark corners of your mind,

you’ve been wondering.


While you’ve been

running around,

chasing down,

pushing forward,

you’ve not had a moment

to embrace the fact.


There IS

something more:

meaning,

purpose,

spirit,

connection.


But it’s not found

in what you’ve been doing:

busyness,

more,

distraction.


It’s first found in

quiet,

reflection,

silence.


And though some would like you

to think otherwise,

it is available to

everyone

for

free.


If you’re willing to

pay

the

price

of

stopping.


UNIQUE, NOT ALONE

The facts of our uniqueness are astounding.

You and I are mathematical improbabilities.

Unique DNA.

Unique life.

Magnificent in its complexity.

Yet so often we discount ourselves as ordinary, common, average.

Except when we are

struggling,

hurting,

or feeling ashamed.

Then, we think we are

alone,

singular,

an island.

The truth is:

Each person is unique and everyone struggles.

You are unique, a beautiful complexity,

but you are not alone

unless you choose to be.  

From Every. Single. Day. 

SPREAD THE GOOD WORD

We pay inordinate attention to the negative.

So when the service at the restaurant

is poor,

we fixate on it.

Our emotions get fired up.

At these times, we are likely to get on our phones

and write a flaming, one-star review.

Today, I invite you to flip that mentality.

Pay inordinate attention to the good.

Look for where people are doing their jobs

with consistency, regularity, dependability.


Then, spread the good word.

Let them know you appreciate it.

Take out your phone and write

a glowing review.

You may find there’s a lot more good

than you imagined.

And that’s worth getting fired up about.


TOMORROW, YESTERDAY, TODAY

One is more helpful for planning.

One is more helpful for perspective.

One is most helpful for execution.


Focusing too much on one leads to worry.

Ruminating too long on one leads to regret.

Spending most of your time in one leads to fulfillment.


Tomorrow

and

yesterday

are great places to visit.


But you don’t want to live there.


Get your perspective from yesterday

Make your plans with tomorrow.

Live today.


THE EGG PAN

Cooking eggs can be a messy business.


The way the protein of the egg

interacts with the heated metal

of the frying pan

often leads to a

forced scrambling

rather than a nice

over easy.


The best solution:

buy a pan and use it only

for egg frying.


This goes against our nature.

We want items that can do more than one thing.

We joke about the

cooking specialty tool drawer.


We want a multi-tool to do the job

of a dedicated one,

but how often does using a

knife as a screwdriver

turn out badly?


And so it is with our lives,

we want to think we can multitask,

do it all,

do it all well,

and look calm and cool doing it.


But when you cook a steak

in the egg pan,

the next time you cook eggs,

you’re going to get scrambled.