DISRUPTION FRUSTRATION

When your expectations for

life,

work,

relationships

don’t match your reality,

you will experience disruption.

 

When your rules for

“how it’s supposed to be”

aren’t being met,

you will be frustrated.

 

Most people simply stay stuck

in this disruption frustration,

telling themselves this is

“just how it is.”

 

But it isn’t.

 

You always have a choice:

change your rules,

your expectations,

or work to change your reality.

 

But only if you would rather not be stuck.

A HERO EMBARKS

Planning

the work you want to do,

the art you want to create,

the impact you want to have

can be overwhelming.

You can see a glorious future

high on the mountaintop,

but the path from here to there

is covered in darkness and fog.

 

The immensity

of your life project,

the tasks you need to complete,

the uncertainty of success

can cause you

to get stuck

in your own mind.

 

Doubts and fears

creep in,

telling you

the journey is too dangerous,

that you’re not ready,

that you’ll never be ready.

 

Now is the time to remember,

when hero’s journey begins

she doesn’t know

how it will go.

She only knows the desired outcome.

 

And the way every

hero embarks

is to simply take

the

first

step. 

WHAT YOU GET USED TO

If you get

mad,

sad,

anxious,

frustrated

when something unexpected happens,

it is more than likely

you feel that way

every time.

 

Most people think that

how they feel day to day,

how they respond to change

is out of their control.

 

But that’s not true.

It’s what you have gotten used to.  

 

Your emotions are a habit.

 

And like any habit,

your emotional responses can be changed.  

 

You begin by deciding that feeling

mad,

sad,

anxious,

frustrated

is what you used to

do.

MIND CLEANING

We understand the potential danger of

toys on the stairs,

shoes left in the walkway,

unattended clutter that seems to multiply,

but we wait until someone gets hurt

or we are having guests

to clean it up.

 

The clutter in our minds,

the negative self-talk,

the fears keeping us from taking action

have as much potential for adversely affecting

our lives as the toy on the stair.

 

And we often talk about

clearing our heads by taking

a walk,

a deep breath,

or

a break,

but

we wait until

we are

overwhelmed,

frustrated,

or

angry

to actually do it.

 

Imagine what your days would be like

if you began by

cleaning your mind,

clearing the path for

progress,

possibility,

and realizing potential.

 

Imagine what you could do

if the clutter in your mind

wasn’t troubling you.

 

Left unattended, it multiplies.

PAST PERFORMANCE

“Past performance does not predict future results.”

 

This is mandatory verbiage for investments,

but we completely disregard it.

 

The core of our being wants to believe

the past predicts the future.

We believe this to be true with

money

as well as

Life.

 

“I’ve screwed it up before.  I’ll just do it again.”

 

While it is true we humans tend to repeat our mistakes,

it is not fate.

 

The legacy,

the destiny

you seek

is not based in what you did

Yesterday.

 

it. starts. today.  

and it continues

Every. Single. Day.

THE BIG SPLASH

To be living the life of our dreams,

we’re told to

make the biggest splash,

the loudest noise,

get a presence on social media that says,

“Hey, look at my shiny toys.”

 

The supposed gurus and glamour girls,

with their Ferrari’s and perfect curls,

are about as

real

as

reality t.v.

and this is what we want our life to be?

 

There is nothing wrong with fancy cars

and beautiful hair,

it’s just hard to tell what’s true

when at a smartphone screen we stare.  

 

What if, instead of following the sprayed on sheen,

today you chose to make the tiniest ripple,

to do the good, hard work of connecting?

 

And every day, what if you connected some more,

developing trust and a small devoted core?

 

For our eyes may crave the trappings and toys,

but our hearts know,

life is not found

in making the most noise.