We blame ourselves.
When something doesn’t go
our way,
or
the way we expected it to go.
And this is the problem:
expectations.
We are incredibly poor at
evaluating
our
expectations.
And so we blame ourselves
for “failure”
when our expectations
may have been way
out of line.
All of it,
the expectations,
the blame,
the failure
are
only in our minds.
To subvert this cycle,
ask yourself,
“What else could be causing this result?”
Maybe your friend is dealing with an issue
and so cannot return your call.
Maybe your boss was just reprimanded
when you asked about your project.
There are all kinds of reasons
why your expectations may not be
being met.
And it’s not always you.
So stop blaming yourself.