Choosing
vulnerability,
love,
and
hope
requires
courage,
fortitude,
and
determination.
Choosing
fear
and
fatalism
requires nothing.
No wonder it seems
we have so much of one
and never enough of the other.
Reflections
Choosing
vulnerability,
love,
and
hope
requires
courage,
fortitude,
and
determination.
Choosing
fear
and
fatalism
requires nothing.
No wonder it seems
we have so much of one
and never enough of the other.
It’s not the big splash that gets remembered.
It’s the long furrow, diligently dug over a lifetime.
What will your legacy be?
If you are always seeking the easy path,
if you run away from discomfort,
if you are unwilling to endure the slightest adversity,
when the time comes to do work that matters,
you won’t have what it takes.
And it’s always time to do work that matters.
We think
what stops us,
what holds us back,
what binds us
are the forces of
culture,
commerce,
community.
External forces.
There is some truth
in this way of thinking.
We are all a part of these systems.
But, the larger truth
is that
we create
the stories
which have to strongest
hold on us.
“I’ll never get hired.”
“I don’t have enough experience.”
“I’ve been out of work too long.”
“I will mess it up.”
“I’m not ready.”
“What if they hate me?”
“I only get one chance.”
Internal forces.
Until you break the chains
of your own stories,
until you do the
difficult work of shaping
your internal forces,
you will always blame the
external ones.
We put them on
as if everyday is Halloween.
These faces.
The work face.
The friend face.
The home face.
The parent face.
The “everything is alright” face.
We get so practiced at switching
from one to another,
almost no one notices.
They see the face we show them.
Sometimes, when we’re alone,
we wonder,
where is the “me” face?
But we’ve crafted the faces
so carefully;
we’ve played our parts,
so diligently;
we think it could all fall apart,
so easily;
and “me” stays hidden,
almost completely.
Until it doesn’t.
There comes a day
when you tire of wearing faces.
So, you make the choice
and do the work
to face the fear of rejection.
You peel them off,
one
by
one.
You begin to see
who you’ve become.
Now it’s no longer a choice
of what face to wear,
you don’t have to choose
YOU are already there.
When you give more than expected,
more value,
more quality,
more caring;
you may think it would
drain you,
take from you,
reduce you.
But when you practice
unexpected generosity
you don’t become less,
you become more.
Being wanted and needed
is every person’s desire.
To feel valued and valuable
feeds our personal fire.
Without attention, love, and care,
we know babies stop crying,
turn to the side of the crib,
and soon stop breathing the air.
We forget that adults need the same --
to feel welcomed and wanted,
to know someone is glad they came.
But if we leave it to others
to make us feel good,
we will be disappointed
and feel misunderstood.
So it is that we must learn,
if we want to feel wanted and needed,
showing others they are valued
must be our concern.
So often,
the more difficult path
is the one that leads us
to freedom.
There are days
when the words won’t come,
when the will is weak,
when desire wanes.
There are days
when getting up is easy,
when working is flow,
when your appetite is voracious.
There are days which pivot
between
full speed ahead
and
full stop.
You will know you have done
the hard inner work
when each of these days is
well met.
Today,
seek to be powerfully present
at home,
at work,
with coworkers,
with friends,
with yourself,
and notice what happens.
When you learn to be where you are,
you don’t need to be anywhere else.