We are programmed for social consistency.

Once we have established a role for ourselves,

at home, at work, amongst our friends,

it becomes a struggle to change.


If we are known as

the funny one,

the bad girl,

the smart one

the good boy,

the dour one,

our minds warn us that any shift

may change how people feel about us.


It’s a lie (mostly).


When you surprise them with

a new consistency,

a different focus,

a  developing aspiration,

those you want to keep around you

will support you.


There will be those who


push back,

be shocked,

sit open-mouthed.


Press forward.


When you surprise them,

you may just surprise yourself.