You hear it all the time,
“That’s just how I am.”
We say it to excuse
unproductive or unhelpful behavior,
as if one waved a wand
and made the behavior ok.
It’s really a signal saying,
“I know this is something I should change,
but I’m not going to change it.”
We make the excuse and align it with our nature
so as to get a pass from
If it’s part of our nature,
it cannot be changed, right?
But, we would never allow someone else
to do this to us,
to take some poor behavior and
align it with our nature.
We would fight them with tooth and nail
to defend our goodness,
and assign our bad behavior to a momentary lapse.
The question is:
Is this really “just how you are”
and cannot be changed
or is it a habit developed like so many others
which can be extinguished and replaced?
So is “just how I am”
really who you want to be?