SELF-LOVE

Maybe because it has the word

“self” in it,

self-love

gets equated with

self-ish,

self-important,

self-centered.

 

So we we teach ourselves:

If we are going to love others,

be for others,

we cannot engage in self-love.

 

It’s self-indulgent, we tell ourselves.

 

Besides, we don’t want anyone to catch us

preening in the mirror and saying,

“I’m good enough.  I’m pretty enough,

and, darn it, people like me.”

Too embarrassing.

 

So we hold ourselves at arms length

and call it

self-denial, self-restraint, self-control.

 

Maybe this should be called self-abuse.

 

However,

when we move toward

self-acceptance

we begin to discover a new world.

 

We find,

in loving ourselves,

in caring for ourselves,

a greater capacity

to love others.

 

We experience depths

of love we never knew existed.

 

And self-love transforms to true love.