Maybe because it has the word
“self” in it,
gets equated with
So we we teach ourselves:
If we are going to love others,
be for others,
we cannot engage in self-love.
It’s self-indulgent, we tell ourselves.
Besides, we don’t want anyone to catch us
preening in the mirror and saying,
“I’m good enough. I’m pretty enough,
and, darn it, people like me.”
So we hold ourselves at arms length
and call it
self-denial, self-restraint, self-control.
Maybe this should be called self-abuse.
when we move toward
we begin to discover a new world.
in loving ourselves,
in caring for ourselves,
a greater capacity
to love others.
We experience depths
of love we never knew existed.
And self-love transforms to true love.